STUPID WOMEN with a plan

There’s a reason why I don’t hang out with too many females: you never quite know what they’re up to.

I take men’s sides on debates like on my previous post “Men vs. Women Part 1:Commitment”. I’m not an anti-feminist, I’m just anti-stupid women. Now I want to take that to a new level:

STUPID WOMEN WITH A PLAN

I was watching Maury today and it pissed me off. It pissed me off! This woman said “I know he’s been keeping our relationship a secret from her, but he needs to take care of his baby.” [BACKGROUND: A woman named Christmas (yeah we’ll talk about that later) was sleeping with her ex boyfriend who she knew was now married to this woman Cherie. Knowing the situation, she decided to have a baby with this lowlife man and now was yelling at him about not claiming her child. When Christmas came out, the cheating man and Cherie decided to yell at Christmas calling her a hoe, home wrecker, and a slut.] My problems with these women are as follows:

  1. Cherie had forgiven this man for earlier infidelities
  2. Christmas knew this man was now married
  3. Christmas knew this man had no want of a relationship with her
  4. Christmas decided to have a child with this man
  5. This man had unprotected sex with this woman

Most people will say its this man’s fault for being unfaithful, he caused all this to happen. Charlie feels that women did not come as far as they did in equality to not take control of their own destinies. If you caught this man cheating on you plenty of times before, what makes you stay? “Oh but I love him, and he said he won’t ever do it again!”

I feel like women should cheat on a boyfriend who’s in love with them. Only then will women understand that if a man cheats on you, he doesn’t give a sh** about you! Love is different from respect. Only when a woman lives the life of an unfaithful man will they learn the disrespect of  breaking monogamy.

So Cherie could be living a totally different life if she hadn’t forgiven him. What makes you think it’s your responsibility to fix this man? A man only learns how to be faithful once a woman he cares about leaves him for good. Your heartbreak and forgiveness means nothing to a man unless he cares a great deal about you. Seeing as how he cheated on you, I doubt he does.

Now she’s stuck with this cheater, 3 of his kids, and a future full of other women.

Christmas. Christmas. Christmas is a stupid woman with a plan. She tried to trap this man. She’s so caught up in a jealous vindictive woman’s mentality that she’s lost sight of herself. She wants to be that woman who sings “I GOT YOUR MAN AND YOU CAN’T DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT”. Now I love that song, but to  relay that message into your real life actions, is a problem. Why are you chasing a man who’s in a relationship with someone else to just gloat about it? If he really had something for you, he’d be with you. So here Christmas is admitting she knew he was keeping the relationship a secret but now she wants him to take care of her bastard child. What if he had turned out to be the father? This woman’s plan would’ve been a success.

Women like Christmas need to be put on watch. You think you’re a pimp, a player, and are smarter than these women, but little do you know they have a plan. The most notorious woman with a plan to enrich her life and destroy yours for fun would have to be soap opera character Erica Kane. Erica Kane was a ruthless bi**h. Oh she had a plan and even if screwing you over wasn’t apart of said plan, she’d do it just for fun. Singer Aaliyah had it down with her song Erica Kane:

Verse 1

She’s back on the streets
And free for the night
Fill you with grief
She cuts like a knife
Make you do things that no others could do
She’ll turn a professor into a fool
Oh she ain’t hard to get, the girl gets around
Those that she met, they’re destined to drown
She’ll make you change like you never believed
She’d turn a working man into a thief
Oh…..

Chorus
She’s Erica, Erica, Erica, Erica
Yo, yo she’s Erica, Erica, Erica
She’s Erica, Erica, Erica, Erica
She’s Erica, Erica, Erica (Erica Kane)
She’s Erica, Erica, Erica, Erica
Yo, yo she’s Erica, Erica, Erica
She’s Erica, Erica, Erica, Erica
She’s Erica, Erica, Erica
Erica Kane

Verse 2:
A walk on the block
She’s at it again
She’ll be your friend
As long as you spend
I know she’s torn whole families apart
She’ll shoot a poison arrow straight through your heart
Oh this is the day for Erica Kane
With nothing to lose, all for her to gain

She’ll make an honest man steal from his folks
And drain a millionaire until he goes broke

Chorus
She’s Erica, Erica, Erica, Erica
Yo, yo she’s Erica, Erica, Erica
She’s Erica, Erica, Erica, Erica
She’s Erica, Erica, Erica (Erica Kane)
She’s Erica, Erica, Erica, Erica
Yo, yo she’s Erica, Erica, Erica
She’s Erica, Erica, Erica, Erica
She’s Erica, Erica, Erica
Erica Kane
(repeat)

Bridge:
I really don’t think you should mess around
Cause all she’ll do (all she can do is run you down)
And there’s nothing for you to gain (there’s nothing to gain)
And she goes by this name

Chorus
She’s Erica, Erica, Erica, Erica

So women and men, be careful. Women if you notice you have a friend who’s an Erica Kane in her life, get her out of your life ASAP! Once she drains everyone else, she’ll turn her sights to you.

Men, if you think you’re just using her for sex, be weary of what she’s using you for.

Charlie Will<–][–>Charlie does.

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What is religion to you?

What is religion to you?

The topic of religion came upon reading this article about an extremist religious group getting busted by the FBI. The link is here:

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ynews/ynews_ts1361

In the article it talks about a CHRISTIAN group that wants to stir up violence against “the anti-christ, evil Jews, and Muslims”.  They believe violence will bring about the second coming of Christ. They planned to kill police officers, then attack their funerals because there would be a large number of officers there as well.

I’d be the first to admit I’m not the most religious person in the world but I am very spiritual. I believe religion is there to tell you right from wrong, good from evil, and teach you morality. Each religion just offers a different reward. Some say you get into a land of eternal happiness, some say you’ll come back to the Earth even higher on the chain. A boy from the documentary “Baghdad High” said 

“All religions are equal. The rest is politics”

Isn’t he right? Is one religion more sacred than the next? Muslims, christians, and Jews believe in different prophets but in the same God. So why are you fighting one another? It’s not your prophet who created you, nor is it your prophet who will judge you in the end. So tell me who’s better?

What makes people go crazy for cocoa puffs with their religion is fear. How scary is it to think of being in hell for eternity? As in forever. So you’re always hoping you’re doing the right thing and that the religion you believe in is the right one. We all know fear is a strong motivator and will lead you to do something you may not have otherwise done. Which is why if your leader says ‘Do this because this is what our religion tells us’ you will do it (i.e. KKK, Nazi’s, these Hutaree people).

How can you tackle religious suicide bombers, or religious political figure heads, or religious protesters? You can’t. Religion is something that you can’t see or hear or touch or feel(not figuratively, literally). You can’t take away something that isn’t there. Let me explain another way (you know how I love a good story and metaphors):

Have you ever tried to take away a child’s imaginary friend?

You keep asking the child “Why are you talking to your imaginary friend?”

The child rebutted saying “Well my friend helps me when bad things happen.”

Then you ask “Is your friend here now? Can I talk to him?”

“No!” screams the child. “He only talks to me because you don’t believe in him”.

You say “Yes, because your friend doesn’t exist.”

And now that child will never want to talk to you again. It’s the same EXACT thing with religion. Stay with me here, I’m not calling anybody childish. What I’m trying to say is, going against what someone believes is very hard to do. If they believe this person, can bring them through adversity even with lack of physical presence, they cannot be told any different.

Nonetheless, there has to be a point where religion isn’t the reason for violence, prejudice, and hate. I’m a flower child. I try not to wrong others, and when I do I try to make it right. This might be the reason for my shy and quiet character, which most people see as weakness.

However, I believe that if I’m the flower and not the rock in the vase, I’ll have less glass to clean up.

(that’s something i just came up with on my own.  think I have a little Confucius in me). My spirit tells me to do right, think positive, and help others. My spiritual religion doesn’t offer a reward for the good deeds that I do, it makes me a good person. What about yours?

HEALTHCARE REFORM!!!

Healthcare has been passed! How do you feel about it? I’m not going to go off what people are telling me to feel. I’m going to tell you how I feel. In this LONG blog I will discuss causes, pros, and cons.

CAUSES

I’m not a wealthy American. I can’t just wake up tomorrow and decide to go to a private practice dermatologist. I use simple soap and water and the occasional PROACTIV. If I notice a pimple forming, I don’t freak out and go to the ER.  If you’ve noticed, I’ve touched on 3 big issues for me and healthcare.

  1. Division of the classes. When will it end? Never. We’re a capitalist country. Therefore, there will always be the haves and the have-nots. Trust me, there is no middle class. Middle class is the have-nots clambering to become the haves. Until you become the haves though, no matter how many jobs you’re working, you will still be considered a have-not. You don’t get the title until you make it, so you can get that ‘I’m upper middle class’ bull out now. There are the people who can afford the best of the best of the best, and then there’s ….you and I. My healthcare is under my dad, which is under the UNITED STATES MILITARY. I am seen by other military personnel stationed in the area, so my primary care physician is hardly ever consistent. My mom is covered under her job’s benefits, which isn’t much even though she works at a hospital.
  2. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELVES! I use soap and water to clean the built up oil of the day off my face. I eat a house salad instead of fries at a restaurant. I exercise weekly. I don’t drink soda or non-100% fruit juice. I drink LOTS AND LOTS of water. Americans are getting fat. Today’s kids will die younger than the generation before them. People are getting diseases that used to be rare and reserved only for people in certain occupations. Why are you getting lung disease when you haven’t worked in anybody’s coal mine sir? Oh you smoke a pack of cigarettes a day? My problem is that people live unhealthy lives and then depend on the government to pay for their medications while they die slowly over a course of 10-15 years. Sometimes you live healthy and life just happens. However, obesity doesn’t happen unless you’ve been in a few “Eat this 20 lbs hamburger and you get a T-shirt” contest.
  3. Hypochondria. If I had a dollar for every time my mom said “I think I have….” I’d be rich. This is just out of control. Everytime the news comes on, “At 5, Liz Crenshaw takes you inside the dirty world of….your purse.” Now women and cross dressers and men with man-bags, are tuned in and scared to death. “Oh God I might get a staph infection if I reach for that gum. Does anyone have hand sanitizer?” Yes we know the comforters at hotels don’t get washed so we steer clear, but you shouldn’t be spraying your house down with bleach because you’re trying to get that .0001% of bacteria left over.
  4. Pharmaceutical companies are causing the worst of it all. I didn’t know there was such profit to be made from scaring your fellow country men. How many commercials do you see with new ailments and the perfect non-FDA approved drug to cure it?
  • Restless leg syndrome? Dr. Charlie’s cure: Get up. Oh but I can’t make millions of dollars from telling people that so I have to invent some oxy-poli-calci-metha-hydryl crap to cure you. But it might cause: skin peeling, eye redness and irritation, loss of bladder function, iris pigment change, bloating, cramps, heart palpitations, and a rare but serious side effect that may lead to heart attack stroke, or death.
  • Once again, there’s nothing we can do to stop them. If people think they have the new sexy disease you just made up, they don’t care that you’re also the one curing it. I only see one company advertise restless leg syndrome. If it was something real wouldn’t there be more than one? Or did they patent that illness?

{{{Side note: Did you see the commercial for that drug for male pattern baldness that “shouldn’t be handled by women”? I found a site where other people were talking about it.http://forums.studentdoctor.net/archive/index.php/t-408365.html What kind of bull is that? It doesn’t scare you a little?}}}

PROS

  1. We still have a 10% unemployment rate. Just because you don’t have a job doesn’t mean you won’t get sick. Not having a job will make you stressed out and actually more prone to getting sick.
  2. Once you reach a certain age, or graduate college, you can no longer be on your parents’ plan. This bill will eliminate that. I mean how many college grads have a great paying career in which they can start to pay back their loans AND pay for co-pays and deductibles if their company offers healthcare benefits?
  3. Jobs. Jobs. Great paying gov’t jobs in every county of every state. The more people working, the less people claiming welfare. The more people working, the more they can pay for goods and services. The more people working, the more small businesses opening and employing people. The gov’t is the best employer. I know of so many people here in the DMV area who have had a gov’t job, or want a gov’t job. Claim scary socialism all you want, but when socialism works like this, there’s nothing bad about it. The government is nothing to fear. As long as we hold the power of elections, republicans can stop the scare tactics. If we’re a capitalist society, why can’t the government throw its hat in the ring? Obviously all the other hats cost too much and don’t provide enough.

CONS

  1. More taxes. Yes it’s government-run, so it’s coming from us…like the Bush bailout. Oh I’m sorry did we forget about that once Obama was in the office? Yeah that was still $700 BILLION$$$of unregulated American via China money.
  2. Seeing as how Obama’s bailout was just as unregulated, how can we trust that this will work like it should? This program should have strict rules for applicants so that people aren’t leaching. This program should have a smart person heading it who will ensure each state is thoroughly checking its systems and monitoring their employees. They should always be doing their job to the best of their abilities, not like the Department of Motor Vehicles.(I don’t know why you’re getting paid so much when you’ve helped 2 people the entire day)

I want to leave you with a healthcare reform debate sparked by Ms. J. Beasley’s comment on her facebook page. With her permission, I wanted to share this on my blog for other point-of-views.

Charlie Will<–][–>Charlie does

Jaclyn A. Beasley So much for a Republic… so much for a bi-partisan government… good GOD, not one Republican in the House voted for this monstrosity… 34 Democrats voted against this thing… 219 to 216…. Hello, Socialist America!Mon at 9:38am · Comment · · View Feedback (19)Hide Feedback (19)

Tamar Willis
I think as republicans and democrats we’re always going to disagree, but for me if I had democrats representing me in such God awful ways I’d be ashamed. You just dont spit on people. Theres always a way to handle things but spitting would’ve had dude headed to the dentist with those wonderful dental benefits he already has 😉
Mon at 9:50am
Jaclyn A. Beasley
That is an awesome vid, Nick. Unfortunately not enough Americans these days care enough about there bodies or for that matter there country to pursue a healthy and responsible lifestyle. I am more concerned with the people who are leading this country right now. The overwhelming majority of Americans do not want this and it is a downright and blatant trampling of our Constitutional rights.
Mon at 9:51am
Tamar Willis
You are definitely right not enough care…not until it hits their families. Not sure that will ever change. No matter how much change is brought to politics. In every Presidency something comes about that we dont all support, its the way of the world.
Mon at 10:06am
Charlie Will
I don’t feel that way. Americans need to understand that these politicians are assholes. They’ll have you pissed off about something you should be happy for. Americans pay for these politicians’ paychecks AND health benefits. Technically they have a government healthcare. They use our GOVERNMENT collected taxes to go to expensive private practice … See Moredoctors. There’s a problem that your politicians won’t talk about and these conservative americans are aloof to the facts.

When was it wrong to give people the opportunity to see a doctor? How do people feel about those conservative protesters throwing money at that old man saying “Oh you want a hand out? Here you go, here’s a dollar”. Is that what all conservatives feel about it? Its a hand out? Thats why they’re against it. Well these people in the 10% unemployment rate will celebrate that they can have coverage since they don’t have medical benefits from their non-existent job.

Mon at 10:14am ·
Julia Pitts
i was wondering how you felt about this shit. i’m annoyed. like, really really annoyed.
Mon at 10:47am
Jaclyn A. Beasley
So, now instead of just paying for these politicians plush paychecks and healthcare benefits, we will also be paying for EVERYone’s healthcare; not that we don’t already do that… after the bill passes, it will be mandated. Mandating and enforcing citizens to have health insurance does not match up with the principles of the Constitution. This is… See More just another power play from Obama, Nancy Pelosi and dingy Harry Reid… amongst the other dirtbags. A bill of this size passed by a simple majority. Where the problem lies, is that the majority of Americans did NOT want this bill to go through. Do you really think that overnight “30 million” Americans wil be able to have affordable healthcare (and by affordable, I mean free). This bill is going back to the Senate, and I have no doubt in my mind that it will pass… Obama will sign it with a flourish of his pen. Just like that we will push the quintessential socialist snowball down a hill and before we know it, we will gradually embrace communism as if it were a good thing. I am going to fight tooth and nail before I will let that happen. November will reflect all of this btw… American citizens have very good memory, especially when it comes to betrayal.
Mon at 10:52am
Tamar Willis
I constantly volunteer at homeless shelters, I raise money for breast cancer, cystic fibrosis , HIV and at risk teens. I dont live each day just for me…I “try” to make a difference in the lives of others…theres nothing worse than seeing someone who has worked forever and is suddendly is unable to provide medical needs for that child or loved … See Moreone that may need it. I have 2 with asthma the thought of not being able to provide for them has never entered my mind. It doesnt mean it wont happen. As you stated before ….we already pay for them, theres nothing wrong with giving back. Not everyone is looking for a hand out. Speaking to homeless people I know we’re all a pay check away from the same situation. The United States should not be about SELF
Mon at 11:05am
Julia Pitts
yeah, it kind of should. constitutionally speaking, the US is about personal “liberty”. not to say we should all be incredibly selfish and not provide for the “general welfare”, but obamacare is not the answer.
Mon at 11:14am
Tamar Willis
I certainly hope you never find yourselves in a situation where you’ll need the help of another. We’re all entitled to give or recieve.I’m a giver. I never want to see a stranger or a family member in need. I’m willing to make the extra effort to help you and yours. One of the best jobs I had was at PG Hospital helping to provide ins for those that… See More didnt have it. It was called the Hilburton Act….the amount of trauma patients coming in not having ins would’ve had the hospital closed years ago if it wasnt for that ins. The pay was AWFUL but I was making a difference. As for Obamacare or Obama in general he doesnt have fans just like Bush didnt have fans. It comes with the job. My brother is in Afghanistan giving back without complaint….it comes with the Job. Thanks Beasley for a healthy FB debate much better than most postings
Mon at 11:23am
Paul Mitchell
But Tamar, (sorry, I don’t know you but I’m one of Jackie’s friends and I want to get in on this) I have a few questions: Would you be a giver if you were FORCED to be a giver? If you were on the receiving end of being GIVEN something without earning it, would you have incentive to try to earn it? And where in the US Constitution does it … See Moreguarantee or even mention “free and equal access to health insurance,” or that if you don’t decide to purchase health insurance, you will be fined?

There are glaring examples welfare beneficiaries taking advantage of current programs (food-stamps, unemployment insurance) and not enough government regulation to be sure that it doesn’t happen. When people are given something for nothing, there is no incentive to try to dig oneself out. This is why Socialism and all Marxist principles don’t work. And when a massive welfare program like this is created, it doesn’t take into account the number of positions in the government (thousands of IRS tax collectors/auditors) that are going to need to be created, which will run the indirect costs of the bill up. Big government=inefficient processes and programs (and bureaucracy)=lots of wasted taxpayer dollars.

When you take money away from people who earn it, and disperse it, either through welfare programs or other entitlement programs, it is called Socialism. It’s an attempt at social equality, which is simply not possible, and is in fact contradictory, to a Capitalist system such as ours.

Mon at 12:07pm
Tamar Willis
Just spent 5 mins typing my response for FB to kick me out. So short version Paul. I dont feel anyone should be mandated to pay I’ve always felt if you want to give you’ll give. I also felt my brother shouldn’t have been made to go to Iraq, said Aghanistan earlier by mistake. As for me I’ve seen teenage girls raped and testing positive for HIV and … See Morehaving issues paying for daily medications and the homeless man who cant take kids in for annual physicals. As for me even I shouldnt be made to pay , but I however am ok with helping you out as well as the next man. There are plenty of people that abuse the welfare system but there are just as many that arent. Thankfully I have not had to go to the unemployment offices but I hear there are tons down there that are completely ass out! Guess we shouldnt help them either. Its their fault they lost their jobs. Keep in mind this plan also helps those that work for companies that cant afford to provide ins for their employees so its not just about those that arent doing for themselves. US Constitution doesnt say anything about having a heart but I can assume we all have one somewhere.
Mon at 12:32pm
Paul Mitchell
Same thing happened to me, and from now on any long response I make on Facebook is going in a word document while I write. I am a giver as well. I donate blood, I volunteer, and I give money to my church. I don’t disagree that voluntarily giving is important, and in fact, reflects our values as Americans. There are so many Non-Governmental … See MoreOrganizations and free clinics that ask for (and depend on) donations in order to provide health care to those who cannot afford it and need it. Perhaps our government should be telling us to spend more money donating to these organizations, instead of, say, political campaigns. (Obama raised and spent over $500 million in his campaign for the White House — by far a record for any political campaign in this country’s history). I will also agree with you that there are probably as many people on welfare who need it as those who are taking advantage of it.

But the problem lies with the people (and there are tons of them) who take advantage of these systems and live off of them for their whole lives without giving anything back. There are lots of them, and I don’t blame them. As a human being, if you are ENTITLED to something, there is no incentive to work for it. And the only way to counter this aspect of human nature is to expand the federal agency responsible for running the program in order to do, literally, door to door audits.
There is a waterfall effect where the more programs you have, the more people there need to be to run it, and the more involvement the Federal Government has in our lives. This is, again, Socialism. Great Britain’s Health Care System (a government-run program) employs 1.3 million people, making it the 3rd largest employer in the world. It’s bigger than Walmart. And they have 1/5 of our population. How many Americans would become federal employees if this continues to expand?
According to Philosopher John Locke (studied by Thomas Jefferson and who’s ideas are a huge part of our founding principles), “People should not fear their government, government should fear its people.” Do you think the government can fear us if it employs all of us and we depend on it to run our lives?

Mon at 1:16pm
Tamar Willis
Something tells me if they could employ all of us they could possibly fear us. Your idea would be great if we could get all americans to donate as you and I do, we could always hope. We can all agree to disagree and hope each of us arent to affected. I have a daughter headed to college soon I’m happy that I’ll still be able to insure her up to 26 … See Moreas she finds herself fulltime employement. Nothing worse that parents having to drop their college student the month they graduate. We’ll have to meet back here Paul LOL if this all goes through 🙂 …..sorry Beasley you started it. BTW Paul I’m her old Cheerleading coach
Mon at 1:24pm
Charlie Will
Wait Jackie used to be a cheerleader? I wish i was around for that. I just wanted to say the debate here was great to read. I believe strict guidelines for regulating this program is needed before it starts. Nothing upsets me more than people leeching the system as an easy way through life. Regulation of this program will will avoid scams and save … See Moremoney. The reason why medicaid ended up costing so much is b/c everybody and their neighbor applied for it and were wrongly approved.

This will create lots of government jobs in every county of every state. That’s good socialism. Think about it. Once they start working these jobs they’ll have money to pay into taxes and when they use their new gov’t healthcare benefits they’ll be paying a deductible or co-pay which feeds back into the system, and they’ll also be able to pay for goods and services which will continually bring the economy back to life.

People always say the way to help a “developing nation” isn’t by throwing money at them, its by showing them how to put their citizens to work. As far as i’m concerned we’ll be less than a 3rd world country until we break even.

Mon at 1:55pm ·
Tamar Willis
Well said Charlie! And yes Jackie was a cheerleader one of my Best, Gymnast too.
Mon at 2:04pm
Charlie Will
@Tamar: Thank you. People have to stop being told how to feel.

@Jackie: i want pictures……

Mon at 2:58pm ·
Paul Mitchell
Tamar, I am 24, uninsured, and back in college after a few years off. I agree with some parts of his plan: eliminating the “pre-existing condition” clause and allowing dependents up to 26 years old to remain insured under their parents plan. I think that two more things need to be addressed: the anti-trust laws that currently prevent health … See Moreinsurance companies from competing across state lines, and there needs to be greater scrutiny put on malpractice lawsuits to eliminate these insane settlements, which end up trickling down through insurance premiums to us consumers. But as far as the expansion of Medicaid, which has been one of the most disastrous and overpriced welfare programs of them all, I think that we’re making a mistake. And Charlie, the government providing the means for fair and appropriate education to prepare us for the working world is incredibly important, but as soon as we start becoming dependent on them for jobs, we lose our liberty. We have anti-trust laws now to restrict businesses from holding the entire share of a market. If all of our healthcare and employment goes through the government, who is to restrict them?

This is a great talk guys. Meaningful (and civil) debate is something that shaped America in its beginnings, and is so important for our future!

Mon at 4:14pm

Men vs Women Part 1: Commitment

There are so many things I want to say in this post, I just don’t know where to start.

  1. Who do you think has more problems with commitment?
  2. Why do you think commitment is so important?
  3. Is there really a commitment difference between men and women or are they just stereotypes?

1.

  • I believe women have the most problems with commitment. Hold on, listen to what I have to say. Women have the most problems because they make the most problems. Women create the most problems for themselves. If you have a man who is not ready for commitment for a few years, or has no want for a commitment with YOU, or won’t give you the commitment you want, why do you feel the need to keep him around?
  • Sorry to say this, but women make the most problems with commitment. Men will put their cards out on the table. They will show you all their faults, all their short comings, all their immaturity, and its up to women to take it or leave it. Women date men who don’t please them, don’t support them, don’t have the same dreams and aspirations and try to marry them, breed with them, and put them on a pedestal. There are men out here who want to marry young, have a brood of kids, stay committed, and provide for all. But who do you decide to pick? Exactly. Moving on.

 

2.

  • I think commitment is important because everyone wants to feel loved. What’s that song by Teddy Pendergrass? “Its so good, loving somebody when somebody loves you back and that’s a fact. It’s so good good needing somebody and somebody needs you back.”
  • It’s a great feeling to know that the love you share for somebody is reciprocated. Its feels great to be secure in your love and know that the person safeguarding your heart will cherish it above all others. Oh this takes me back. The good times of being so in love that you could drown out the world and spend hours just being held. OK SORRY.
  • People commit to everything in their lives without thinking, but when it comes to committing to another person, there’s apprehension. You commit to a job, your family, even crackheads can commit to crack. Why is committing to a person that you care about any different?

3.

  • Yes there are commitment stereotypes. Some are true, some are false. I almost got married at 17. He wanted marriage, kids, the whole kit and caboodle as COOKIE would say. (He wasn’t black so you can make another argument for race and commitment but we won’t go there). So I have a bias opinion.

Bottom line is this: Every man and woman is different when it comes to committment, so be open and honest in your relationships. Put your cards out on the table so no one can complain down the line and blame you for the relationship not going the way you want it to. Don’t enter into any long-term situations until you have sat down and talked about it. IT MAY BE AWKWARD, but its a lot better than wasting time on the wrong person. If you don’t have that awkward talk, the only person you can be upset with is yourself.

Charlie Will<–][–>Charlie does.

Can one parent really be both?

Before I start to write this post let me say this:

I, in no way, am here to judge anyone’s situation. I do not mean to offend anyone by any means. This is simply my feelings on a subject that I’m looking at from the outside in. So now that we have that disclaimer, I will continue.

The question is: Can one parent really be both?

This question branched from my first post about a rude generation. I commented on @Korye Edelen’s post saying that we’re breeding a generation of fatherless children. Let me give you some numbers and statistics so you don’t think I’m pulling this out of thin air to make my point. 64% of 8.5 million black households were single parent households. This is taken from http://www.census.gov/Press-Release/www/releases/archives/facts_for_features_special_editions/013007.html

Now I want to go off on another tangent to talk about why these children are born to single parents(penile system, increase in fatal violence, lack of respect for women from men, lack of value of women by themselves, lack of mutually successful counterparts) but I’ll save that for in a few weeks.

Back on topic: Can one parent really be both?

My answer is yes but why? No. My answer is yes and no. No. My answer is NO.

Ok yes sure a parent can in fact do both. Seeing as how minority women are holding their races up and building them to new heights, while minority men are statistically lagging. Sorry I’m getting off topic

However, its ideal for there to be both parents. Why? A father is a child’s first experience with law and authority. They strike fear into you for the following reasons

  1. Men are biologically stronger than women. They are to be the police officers, the presidents, the firefighters, so on and so forth.
  2. Religiously speaking, men are supposed to be the faith holders and guardians of their family’s righteous living. They are an extension of  God and therefore, their family is an extension of them. Your father was the one who said grace, cut the turkey, ate first, and everyone else followed suit.

Women are the first examples of love, kindness, and compassion. If your mother was a good woman who comforted you when life was hard, encouraged you when you were down, fed you when you were hungry, that is what you look for in a mate. There no Oedipus Rex syndrome, but you know that’s the TYPE of person you want.

So how can a mother be both your punisher and comforter? Yes I respected my mom and would never dare even interrupted her when she talked, but I never had fear in my heart of my mother. If I got a bad grade, I’d be afraid of the spanking I’d get from my father but knew my mom would comfort me after saying “It’s ok. Just do better next time.”

This generation of fatherless children has no separation of punisher and comforter. You cannot respect your single parent when they are forced to wear 2 hats at once. This generation of thugs aren’t real thugs. They are simply internally incomplete children acting out to get what they are missing.

We’ve all had at least Psyc101 to know if you’re not getting it at home you’ll run out and get it somewhere else.  That’s why girls are so sexually active and promiscuous. They aren’t getting that man’s love and understanding at home. They don’t have a model of what real love is because their mothers aren’t getting it to show them. Furthermore, these boys aren’t getting the proper punishment and attention at home, so they act out around police officers, and stronger peers.

So how can we remedy this situation? Its becoming so deeply rooted in our society (not just limited to race, because single parent households are on the rise for every race). Young women hear songs about men doing wrong but its ok because she said she “can make it on her own”. Yeah you can. But don’t strive to. Don’t breed with someone before commitment is made. We’re a species that craves companionship because we have roles. Sorry but I’m not a turtle. I’m not going to breed then get left only to be forced to breed again.

I really hope I didn’t offend anyone, but I really have to wonder. Epidemics don’t happen on their own, so I’m simply here to figure out the cause. Tell me how you feel

Charlie Will<–][–>Charlie does.

Tentative schedule!

Next week:
Men vs Women Part 1: Commitment
Music thread: DC live music(where to go, when to go, who to look out for)
Week of March 14-20:… See More
Race Part 1: Inner race relations
Fashion thread: Cupcake & Co The girls behind the madness

Week of March 21-27:
Race Part 2: Inter race relations
Military Living Part 1: Those left behind

 
Is there something you want to talk about? Comment on my schedule and we’ll discuss it. Charlie Will<–][–>Charlie does.

Is it just me or is that rude?

How I tell my stories is by setting the tone of the environment, tell the details, and leave you with a question. So here goes.

It was a cold and rainy Monday in March here in Maryland. It was the type of day when you feel uncomfortable in your own skin. Everything is moist, and making squishy sounds, and on top of that you can no longer feel your extremities.

So here I am waiting for the bus to leave Montgomery College and of course my fingers are paralyzed and cannot dig out the coins necessary. I finally muster up the strength to fight through the pain and find a seat. Now comes on the handicapped man and elderly woman who require a total of 3 seats. I never think twice to give up my seat to others. Well, as long as I know I have hand sanitizer to rid me of my germ phobia. An Asian young gentleman gives up his seat. An Indian young lady reluctantly follows suit after looking around to see if anyone else will do so first. I look around to see who else is left sitting. What do I see? Young black females and males.

Here’s the question: Well you already know what the question is don’t you? Yes. Yes you do. Is it just me, or are young black males and females just unnecessarily rude and manner free? I’m not racist but I do notice things in my community. It seems like the younger generation gets respect from their peers by disrespecting others. How do you feel about that? Please let me know. Lets start a dialogue.