8 Things You Didn’t Know About Dreams

8 Things You Didn’t Know About Dreams.

Everyone dreams—every single night—and yet we tend to know so little about our dreams. Where do they come from? What do they mean? Can we control them and should we try to interpret them? We spoke to the dream experts to bring you nine surprising facts about dreams. Read before snoozing.

1. Dreaming can help you learn.

If you’re studying for a test or trying to learn a new task, you might consider taking a nap or heading to bed early rather than hovering over a textbook an hour longer. Here’s why: When the brain dreams, it helps you learn and solve problems, say researchers at Harvard Medical School. In a study that appeared in a recent issue of Current Biology, researchers report that dreams are the brain’s way of processing, integrating and understanding new information. To improve the quality of your sleep—and your brain’s ability to learn—avoid noise in the bedroom, such as the TV, which may negatively impact the length and quality of dreams.

2. The most common dream? Your spouse is cheating.

If you’ve ever woken up in a cold sweat after dreaming about your husband’s extramarital escapade with your best friend, you’re not alone, says Lauri Quinn Loewenberg, a dream expert, author and media personality. “The most commonly reported dream is the one where your mate is cheating,” she says. Loewenberg conducted a survey of more than 5,000 people, and found that the infidelity dream is the nightmare that haunts most people—sometimes on a recurring basis. It rarely has anything to do with an actual affair, she explains, but rather the common and universal fear of being wronged or left alone.

3. You can have several—even a dozen—dreams in one night.

It’s not just one dream per night, but rather dozens of them, say experts—you just may not remember them all. “We dream every 90 minutes throughout the night, with each cycle of dreaming being longer than the previous,” explains Loewenberg. “The first dream of the night is about 5 minutes long and the last dream you have before awakening can be 45 minutes to an hour long.” It is estimated that most people have more than 100,000 dreams in a lifetime.

4. You can linger in a dream after waking.

Have you ever woken up from such a beautiful, perfect dream that you wished you could go back to sleep to soak it all up (you know, the dream about George Clooney?)? You can! Just lie still—don’t move a muscle—and you can remain in a semi-dreamlike state for a few minutes. “The best way to remember your dreams is to simply stay put when you wake up,” says Loewenberg. “Remain in the position you woke up in, because that is the position you were dreaming in. When you move your body, you disconnect yourself from the dream you were just in seconds ago.”

5. Even bizarre dreams can be interpreted.

While it can be hard to believe that an oddball dream about your mother, a circus and a snowstorm can have any bearing on real life, there may be symbolism and potential meaning to be mined in every dream—you just have to look for it, says Harvard-trained psychotherapist Jeffrey Sumber. “The meaning of our dreams oftentimes relates to things we are needing to understand about ourselves and the world around us,” he says. Instead of shrugging off strange dreams, think about how they make you feel. “We tend to dismiss these dreams due to the strange components, yet it is the feeling we have in these dreams that matters most,” he explains. “Sometimes the circus and the snowstorm are just fillers that allow us to process the range of emotions we feel about our mother and give us the necessary distraction so we can actually experience that spectrum of emotion.”

6. Recurring dreams may be your mind’s way of telling you something.

Do you have the same nightmare over and over again? Loewenberg suggests looking for underlying messages in recurring dreams so that you can rid yourself of them. For example, a common recurring nightmare people have involves losing or cracking their teeth. For this dream, she recommends that people think about what your teeth and your mouth represent. “To the dreaming mind, your teeth, as well as any part of your mouth, are symbolic of your words,” she says. “Paying attention to your teeth dreams helps you to monitor and improve the way you communicate.”

7. You can control your dreams.

The premise of the new movie Inception is that people can take the reins of their dreams and make them what they want them to be. But it may not just be a Hollywood fantasy. According to the results of a new survey of 3,000 people, dream control, or “lucid dreaming” may be a real thing. In fact, 64.9 percent of participants reported being aware they were dreaming within a dream, and 34 percent said they can sometimes control what happens in their dreams. Taking charge of the content of your dreams isn’t a skill everyone has, but it can be developed, says Kelly Bulkeley, PhD, a dream researcher and visiting scholar at the Graduate Theological Union in Berkley, California. The technique is particularly useful for people who suffer from recurring nightmares, he says. Dr. Bulkeley suggests giving yourself a pep talk of sorts before you go to sleep by saying: “If I have that dream again, I’m going to try to remember that’s it’s only a dream, and be aware of that.” When you learn to be aware that you are dreaming—within a dream—you not only have the power to steer yourself away from the monster and into the arms of Brad Pitt, for instance, but you train your mind to avoid nightmares in the first place. “Lucid dreaming enhances your ability to learn from the dream state,” says Dr. Bulkeley.

8. You don’t have to be asleep to dream.

Turns out, you can dream at your desk at work, in the car, even at your kid’s soccer game. Wakeful dreaming—not to be confused with daydreaming—is real and somewhat easy to do, says Dr. Bulkeley; it just involves tapping into your active imagination. The first step is to think about a recent dream you had (preferably a good one!). “Find a quiet contemplative place and bring a dream that you remember back into your waking awareness and let it unfold,” he says. “Let the dream re-energize.” Wakeful dreaming can be used as a relaxation tool, but Dr. Bulkeley says it can also help your mind process a puzzling dream. “It creates a more fluid interaction between unconscious parts of the mind and wakeful parts of the mind,” he says.


How to turn a player into a KICK-ASS boyfriend

How to get a player and turn him into a kick ass boyfriend!


The idea to write this article came from an outside source. In a joking manner they said to me:

“What is your new article about: How to get a boyfriend by using pizza or How to date an ex-player’?”

 I responded by saying:

 “Hmmm those are not bad ideas.”

When I write about relationships or love, I never use examples from my life. Those incidents should stay private in fear of judgement from the audience. However, I figured that this is a subject that most people would like some insight into.

Seemingly, girls love players but are “surprised” when their boyfriends turn out to be a pile of shit(excuse my language}. So what makes the man whore such an appealing character? I’m going to tell you men out there it has absolutely nothing to do with you. *gasp* Oh golly did I just tell you something you didn’t know? Well yes men, women go after the sexy man, buying all the bottles, and surrounded by all the women because of ego. It’s the age-old competition among women to be:

“The one woman who the sexiest man whore chose above all others”

Ha! Who would’ve thunk it? Women have bigger ego and Testosterone(in this case estrogen) battles than men do. So how do you get your cake and eat it too? Look I’m no Magic Don Juan or Reverend Love Joy, I’m just a person to give a minute piece of advice.

In my journey of life I’ve honestly only seriously dated one person. Dated meaning in a monogamous relationship, met and got along with BOTH of my sisters, met their folks, and they met BOTH of mine.

“If your name isn’t Mr. Cruz , then I’m sorry you never made the cut.”

It’s a low number because I like it that way. Not saying that I wasn’t in some sort of relationship with waaaaaay more people, but you don’t just claim every piece of meat that graces your path. Mr. Cruz and I were together on and off for 3 years. He used to be the BIGGEST I mean the BIGGEST whore this area has ever known. However at 16 he spent $$$+ on diamonds which I took to back to the store to get the cash(just kidding I still have them) and just this year he made and brought fried rice to my house DURING the January snowstorm.

“I have a gift”-Michael Douglass in ‘Ghost of Girlfriends Past’

I’m not going to give you my secrets. If this was a pay site, then maybe, but not for free. I’ll just give you some generic and super general steps.

  1. THINK LIKE A MAN. If you don’t follow any of my other suggestions. Follow this one. If you’re not sure that you’re thinking manly enough, go hang out with some guy friends. Not the guy friends that want to get in your pants, the type that will talk about the women in their life when you’re around. Listening to men talk candidly about women is the only way to form their sociopathic complex.
  2. BE SEXY. BE CONFIDENT. Man catching is the name of the game.
  3. DON’T JOIN THE CROWD. BEAT THE CROWD. Whatever the floozies around him are doing, do the opposite. If it’s not working for them, then it’s not going to work for you.
    1. Example: If the girls are all dry humping him and getting wasted, wait for him to come near you and strike up a joke. If you’re not funny, then go get funny fast. Not a knock knock joke. Not a “what did the ____ say to the ____ “ joke.
    2. BE HONEST AND UPFRONT. Say “Look, I think you’re hot. We have to do this again.” Men love that s***. OMG….I LOVE that s***! You don’t care if its game when a guy says it to you, and neither do they. Even when feelings get involved, tell them “You know what I just realized? I like you. You don’t have to say anything back. I just enjoy time with you and thought I’d say it.”
    3. LEAVE A LASTING IMPRESSION. At the end of the day men will be men. He’ll act distant and crude. The player that he is won’t allow him to care about you…….initially. But after he’s partied for a few days and he’s sitting at home, he’ll start thinking of that impromptu karaoke you did at his apartment. Next thing you know he’ll be calling ready to make your relationship official.


I’m no expert, just someone who has found trust, happiness, and drama-free love in a now EX-player.

Love you peanut.


STUPID WOMEN with a plan

There’s a reason why I don’t hang out with too many females: you never quite know what they’re up to.

I take men’s sides on debates like on my previous post “Men vs. Women Part 1:Commitment”. I’m not an anti-feminist, I’m just anti-stupid women. Now I want to take that to a new level:


I was watching Maury today and it pissed me off. It pissed me off! This woman said “I know he’s been keeping our relationship a secret from her, but he needs to take care of his baby.” [BACKGROUND: A woman named Christmas (yeah we’ll talk about that later) was sleeping with her ex boyfriend who she knew was now married to this woman Cherie. Knowing the situation, she decided to have a baby with this lowlife man and now was yelling at him about not claiming her child. When Christmas came out, the cheating man and Cherie decided to yell at Christmas calling her a hoe, home wrecker, and a slut.] My problems with these women are as follows:

  1. Cherie had forgiven this man for earlier infidelities
  2. Christmas knew this man was now married
  3. Christmas knew this man had no want of a relationship with her
  4. Christmas decided to have a child with this man
  5. This man had unprotected sex with this woman

Most people will say its this man’s fault for being unfaithful, he caused all this to happen. Charlie feels that women did not come as far as they did in equality to not take control of their own destinies. If you caught this man cheating on you plenty of times before, what makes you stay? “Oh but I love him, and he said he won’t ever do it again!”

I feel like women should cheat on a boyfriend who’s in love with them. Only then will women understand that if a man cheats on you, he doesn’t give a sh** about you! Love is different from respect. Only when a woman lives the life of an unfaithful man will they learn the disrespect of  breaking monogamy.

So Cherie could be living a totally different life if she hadn’t forgiven him. What makes you think it’s your responsibility to fix this man? A man only learns how to be faithful once a woman he cares about leaves him for good. Your heartbreak and forgiveness means nothing to a man unless he cares a great deal about you. Seeing as how he cheated on you, I doubt he does.

Now she’s stuck with this cheater, 3 of his kids, and a future full of other women.

Christmas. Christmas. Christmas is a stupid woman with a plan. She tried to trap this man. She’s so caught up in a jealous vindictive woman’s mentality that she’s lost sight of herself. She wants to be that woman who sings “I GOT YOUR MAN AND YOU CAN’T DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT”. Now I love that song, but to  relay that message into your real life actions, is a problem. Why are you chasing a man who’s in a relationship with someone else to just gloat about it? If he really had something for you, he’d be with you. So here Christmas is admitting she knew he was keeping the relationship a secret but now she wants him to take care of her bastard child. What if he had turned out to be the father? This woman’s plan would’ve been a success.

Women like Christmas need to be put on watch. You think you’re a pimp, a player, and are smarter than these women, but little do you know they have a plan. The most notorious woman with a plan to enrich her life and destroy yours for fun would have to be soap opera character Erica Kane. Erica Kane was a ruthless bi**h. Oh she had a plan and even if screwing you over wasn’t apart of said plan, she’d do it just for fun. Singer Aaliyah had it down with her song Erica Kane:

Verse 1

She’s back on the streets
And free for the night
Fill you with grief
She cuts like a knife
Make you do things that no others could do
She’ll turn a professor into a fool
Oh she ain’t hard to get, the girl gets around
Those that she met, they’re destined to drown
She’ll make you change like you never believed
She’d turn a working man into a thief

She’s Erica, Erica, Erica, Erica
Yo, yo she’s Erica, Erica, Erica
She’s Erica, Erica, Erica, Erica
She’s Erica, Erica, Erica (Erica Kane)
She’s Erica, Erica, Erica, Erica
Yo, yo she’s Erica, Erica, Erica
She’s Erica, Erica, Erica, Erica
She’s Erica, Erica, Erica
Erica Kane

Verse 2:
A walk on the block
She’s at it again
She’ll be your friend
As long as you spend
I know she’s torn whole families apart
She’ll shoot a poison arrow straight through your heart
Oh this is the day for Erica Kane
With nothing to lose, all for her to gain

She’ll make an honest man steal from his folks
And drain a millionaire until he goes broke

She’s Erica, Erica, Erica, Erica
Yo, yo she’s Erica, Erica, Erica
She’s Erica, Erica, Erica, Erica
She’s Erica, Erica, Erica (Erica Kane)
She’s Erica, Erica, Erica, Erica
Yo, yo she’s Erica, Erica, Erica
She’s Erica, Erica, Erica, Erica
She’s Erica, Erica, Erica
Erica Kane

I really don’t think you should mess around
Cause all she’ll do (all she can do is run you down)
And there’s nothing for you to gain (there’s nothing to gain)
And she goes by this name

She’s Erica, Erica, Erica, Erica

So women and men, be careful. Women if you notice you have a friend who’s an Erica Kane in her life, get her out of your life ASAP! Once she drains everyone else, she’ll turn her sights to you.

Men, if you think you’re just using her for sex, be weary of what she’s using you for.

Charlie Will<–][–>Charlie does.


Healthcare has been passed! How do you feel about it? I’m not going to go off what people are telling me to feel. I’m going to tell you how I feel. In this LONG blog I will discuss causes, pros, and cons.


I’m not a wealthy American. I can’t just wake up tomorrow and decide to go to a private practice dermatologist. I use simple soap and water and the occasional PROACTIV. If I notice a pimple forming, I don’t freak out and go to the ER.  If you’ve noticed, I’ve touched on 3 big issues for me and healthcare.

  1. Division of the classes. When will it end? Never. We’re a capitalist country. Therefore, there will always be the haves and the have-nots. Trust me, there is no middle class. Middle class is the have-nots clambering to become the haves. Until you become the haves though, no matter how many jobs you’re working, you will still be considered a have-not. You don’t get the title until you make it, so you can get that ‘I’m upper middle class’ bull out now. There are the people who can afford the best of the best of the best, and then there’s ….you and I. My healthcare is under my dad, which is under the UNITED STATES MILITARY. I am seen by other military personnel stationed in the area, so my primary care physician is hardly ever consistent. My mom is covered under her job’s benefits, which isn’t much even though she works at a hospital.
  2. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELVES! I use soap and water to clean the built up oil of the day off my face. I eat a house salad instead of fries at a restaurant. I exercise weekly. I don’t drink soda or non-100% fruit juice. I drink LOTS AND LOTS of water. Americans are getting fat. Today’s kids will die younger than the generation before them. People are getting diseases that used to be rare and reserved only for people in certain occupations. Why are you getting lung disease when you haven’t worked in anybody’s coal mine sir? Oh you smoke a pack of cigarettes a day? My problem is that people live unhealthy lives and then depend on the government to pay for their medications while they die slowly over a course of 10-15 years. Sometimes you live healthy and life just happens. However, obesity doesn’t happen unless you’ve been in a few “Eat this 20 lbs hamburger and you get a T-shirt” contest.
  3. Hypochondria. If I had a dollar for every time my mom said “I think I have….” I’d be rich. This is just out of control. Everytime the news comes on, “At 5, Liz Crenshaw takes you inside the dirty world of….your purse.” Now women and cross dressers and men with man-bags, are tuned in and scared to death. “Oh God I might get a staph infection if I reach for that gum. Does anyone have hand sanitizer?” Yes we know the comforters at hotels don’t get washed so we steer clear, but you shouldn’t be spraying your house down with bleach because you’re trying to get that .0001% of bacteria left over.
  4. Pharmaceutical companies are causing the worst of it all. I didn’t know there was such profit to be made from scaring your fellow country men. How many commercials do you see with new ailments and the perfect non-FDA approved drug to cure it?
  • Restless leg syndrome? Dr. Charlie’s cure: Get up. Oh but I can’t make millions of dollars from telling people that so I have to invent some oxy-poli-calci-metha-hydryl crap to cure you. But it might cause: skin peeling, eye redness and irritation, loss of bladder function, iris pigment change, bloating, cramps, heart palpitations, and a rare but serious side effect that may lead to heart attack stroke, or death.
  • Once again, there’s nothing we can do to stop them. If people think they have the new sexy disease you just made up, they don’t care that you’re also the one curing it. I only see one company advertise restless leg syndrome. If it was something real wouldn’t there be more than one? Or did they patent that illness?

{{{Side note: Did you see the commercial for that drug for male pattern baldness that “shouldn’t be handled by women”? I found a site where other people were talking about it.http://forums.studentdoctor.net/archive/index.php/t-408365.html What kind of bull is that? It doesn’t scare you a little?}}}


  1. We still have a 10% unemployment rate. Just because you don’t have a job doesn’t mean you won’t get sick. Not having a job will make you stressed out and actually more prone to getting sick.
  2. Once you reach a certain age, or graduate college, you can no longer be on your parents’ plan. This bill will eliminate that. I mean how many college grads have a great paying career in which they can start to pay back their loans AND pay for co-pays and deductibles if their company offers healthcare benefits?
  3. Jobs. Jobs. Great paying gov’t jobs in every county of every state. The more people working, the less people claiming welfare. The more people working, the more they can pay for goods and services. The more people working, the more small businesses opening and employing people. The gov’t is the best employer. I know of so many people here in the DMV area who have had a gov’t job, or want a gov’t job. Claim scary socialism all you want, but when socialism works like this, there’s nothing bad about it. The government is nothing to fear. As long as we hold the power of elections, republicans can stop the scare tactics. If we’re a capitalist society, why can’t the government throw its hat in the ring? Obviously all the other hats cost too much and don’t provide enough.


  1. More taxes. Yes it’s government-run, so it’s coming from us…like the Bush bailout. Oh I’m sorry did we forget about that once Obama was in the office? Yeah that was still $700 BILLION$$$of unregulated American via China money.
  2. Seeing as how Obama’s bailout was just as unregulated, how can we trust that this will work like it should? This program should have strict rules for applicants so that people aren’t leaching. This program should have a smart person heading it who will ensure each state is thoroughly checking its systems and monitoring their employees. They should always be doing their job to the best of their abilities, not like the Department of Motor Vehicles.(I don’t know why you’re getting paid so much when you’ve helped 2 people the entire day)

I want to leave you with a healthcare reform debate sparked by Ms. J. Beasley’s comment on her facebook page. With her permission, I wanted to share this on my blog for other point-of-views.

Charlie Will<–][–>Charlie does

Jaclyn A. Beasley So much for a Republic… so much for a bi-partisan government… good GOD, not one Republican in the House voted for this monstrosity… 34 Democrats voted against this thing… 219 to 216…. Hello, Socialist America!Mon at 9:38am · Comment · · View Feedback (19)Hide Feedback (19)

Tamar Willis
I think as republicans and democrats we’re always going to disagree, but for me if I had democrats representing me in such God awful ways I’d be ashamed. You just dont spit on people. Theres always a way to handle things but spitting would’ve had dude headed to the dentist with those wonderful dental benefits he already has 😉
Mon at 9:50am
Jaclyn A. Beasley
That is an awesome vid, Nick. Unfortunately not enough Americans these days care enough about there bodies or for that matter there country to pursue a healthy and responsible lifestyle. I am more concerned with the people who are leading this country right now. The overwhelming majority of Americans do not want this and it is a downright and blatant trampling of our Constitutional rights.
Mon at 9:51am
Tamar Willis
You are definitely right not enough care…not until it hits their families. Not sure that will ever change. No matter how much change is brought to politics. In every Presidency something comes about that we dont all support, its the way of the world.
Mon at 10:06am
Charlie Will
I don’t feel that way. Americans need to understand that these politicians are assholes. They’ll have you pissed off about something you should be happy for. Americans pay for these politicians’ paychecks AND health benefits. Technically they have a government healthcare. They use our GOVERNMENT collected taxes to go to expensive private practice … See Moredoctors. There’s a problem that your politicians won’t talk about and these conservative americans are aloof to the facts.

When was it wrong to give people the opportunity to see a doctor? How do people feel about those conservative protesters throwing money at that old man saying “Oh you want a hand out? Here you go, here’s a dollar”. Is that what all conservatives feel about it? Its a hand out? Thats why they’re against it. Well these people in the 10% unemployment rate will celebrate that they can have coverage since they don’t have medical benefits from their non-existent job.

Mon at 10:14am ·
Julia Pitts
i was wondering how you felt about this shit. i’m annoyed. like, really really annoyed.
Mon at 10:47am
Jaclyn A. Beasley
So, now instead of just paying for these politicians plush paychecks and healthcare benefits, we will also be paying for EVERYone’s healthcare; not that we don’t already do that… after the bill passes, it will be mandated. Mandating and enforcing citizens to have health insurance does not match up with the principles of the Constitution. This is… See More just another power play from Obama, Nancy Pelosi and dingy Harry Reid… amongst the other dirtbags. A bill of this size passed by a simple majority. Where the problem lies, is that the majority of Americans did NOT want this bill to go through. Do you really think that overnight “30 million” Americans wil be able to have affordable healthcare (and by affordable, I mean free). This bill is going back to the Senate, and I have no doubt in my mind that it will pass… Obama will sign it with a flourish of his pen. Just like that we will push the quintessential socialist snowball down a hill and before we know it, we will gradually embrace communism as if it were a good thing. I am going to fight tooth and nail before I will let that happen. November will reflect all of this btw… American citizens have very good memory, especially when it comes to betrayal.
Mon at 10:52am
Tamar Willis
I constantly volunteer at homeless shelters, I raise money for breast cancer, cystic fibrosis , HIV and at risk teens. I dont live each day just for me…I “try” to make a difference in the lives of others…theres nothing worse than seeing someone who has worked forever and is suddendly is unable to provide medical needs for that child or loved … See Moreone that may need it. I have 2 with asthma the thought of not being able to provide for them has never entered my mind. It doesnt mean it wont happen. As you stated before ….we already pay for them, theres nothing wrong with giving back. Not everyone is looking for a hand out. Speaking to homeless people I know we’re all a pay check away from the same situation. The United States should not be about SELF
Mon at 11:05am
Julia Pitts
yeah, it kind of should. constitutionally speaking, the US is about personal “liberty”. not to say we should all be incredibly selfish and not provide for the “general welfare”, but obamacare is not the answer.
Mon at 11:14am
Tamar Willis
I certainly hope you never find yourselves in a situation where you’ll need the help of another. We’re all entitled to give or recieve.I’m a giver. I never want to see a stranger or a family member in need. I’m willing to make the extra effort to help you and yours. One of the best jobs I had was at PG Hospital helping to provide ins for those that… See More didnt have it. It was called the Hilburton Act….the amount of trauma patients coming in not having ins would’ve had the hospital closed years ago if it wasnt for that ins. The pay was AWFUL but I was making a difference. As for Obamacare or Obama in general he doesnt have fans just like Bush didnt have fans. It comes with the job. My brother is in Afghanistan giving back without complaint….it comes with the Job. Thanks Beasley for a healthy FB debate much better than most postings
Mon at 11:23am
Paul Mitchell
But Tamar, (sorry, I don’t know you but I’m one of Jackie’s friends and I want to get in on this) I have a few questions: Would you be a giver if you were FORCED to be a giver? If you were on the receiving end of being GIVEN something without earning it, would you have incentive to try to earn it? And where in the US Constitution does it … See Moreguarantee or even mention “free and equal access to health insurance,” or that if you don’t decide to purchase health insurance, you will be fined?

There are glaring examples welfare beneficiaries taking advantage of current programs (food-stamps, unemployment insurance) and not enough government regulation to be sure that it doesn’t happen. When people are given something for nothing, there is no incentive to try to dig oneself out. This is why Socialism and all Marxist principles don’t work. And when a massive welfare program like this is created, it doesn’t take into account the number of positions in the government (thousands of IRS tax collectors/auditors) that are going to need to be created, which will run the indirect costs of the bill up. Big government=inefficient processes and programs (and bureaucracy)=lots of wasted taxpayer dollars.

When you take money away from people who earn it, and disperse it, either through welfare programs or other entitlement programs, it is called Socialism. It’s an attempt at social equality, which is simply not possible, and is in fact contradictory, to a Capitalist system such as ours.

Mon at 12:07pm
Tamar Willis
Just spent 5 mins typing my response for FB to kick me out. So short version Paul. I dont feel anyone should be mandated to pay I’ve always felt if you want to give you’ll give. I also felt my brother shouldn’t have been made to go to Iraq, said Aghanistan earlier by mistake. As for me I’ve seen teenage girls raped and testing positive for HIV and … See Morehaving issues paying for daily medications and the homeless man who cant take kids in for annual physicals. As for me even I shouldnt be made to pay , but I however am ok with helping you out as well as the next man. There are plenty of people that abuse the welfare system but there are just as many that arent. Thankfully I have not had to go to the unemployment offices but I hear there are tons down there that are completely ass out! Guess we shouldnt help them either. Its their fault they lost their jobs. Keep in mind this plan also helps those that work for companies that cant afford to provide ins for their employees so its not just about those that arent doing for themselves. US Constitution doesnt say anything about having a heart but I can assume we all have one somewhere.
Mon at 12:32pm
Paul Mitchell
Same thing happened to me, and from now on any long response I make on Facebook is going in a word document while I write. I am a giver as well. I donate blood, I volunteer, and I give money to my church. I don’t disagree that voluntarily giving is important, and in fact, reflects our values as Americans. There are so many Non-Governmental … See MoreOrganizations and free clinics that ask for (and depend on) donations in order to provide health care to those who cannot afford it and need it. Perhaps our government should be telling us to spend more money donating to these organizations, instead of, say, political campaigns. (Obama raised and spent over $500 million in his campaign for the White House — by far a record for any political campaign in this country’s history). I will also agree with you that there are probably as many people on welfare who need it as those who are taking advantage of it.

But the problem lies with the people (and there are tons of them) who take advantage of these systems and live off of them for their whole lives without giving anything back. There are lots of them, and I don’t blame them. As a human being, if you are ENTITLED to something, there is no incentive to work for it. And the only way to counter this aspect of human nature is to expand the federal agency responsible for running the program in order to do, literally, door to door audits.
There is a waterfall effect where the more programs you have, the more people there need to be to run it, and the more involvement the Federal Government has in our lives. This is, again, Socialism. Great Britain’s Health Care System (a government-run program) employs 1.3 million people, making it the 3rd largest employer in the world. It’s bigger than Walmart. And they have 1/5 of our population. How many Americans would become federal employees if this continues to expand?
According to Philosopher John Locke (studied by Thomas Jefferson and who’s ideas are a huge part of our founding principles), “People should not fear their government, government should fear its people.” Do you think the government can fear us if it employs all of us and we depend on it to run our lives?

Mon at 1:16pm
Tamar Willis
Something tells me if they could employ all of us they could possibly fear us. Your idea would be great if we could get all americans to donate as you and I do, we could always hope. We can all agree to disagree and hope each of us arent to affected. I have a daughter headed to college soon I’m happy that I’ll still be able to insure her up to 26 … See Moreas she finds herself fulltime employement. Nothing worse that parents having to drop their college student the month they graduate. We’ll have to meet back here Paul LOL if this all goes through 🙂 …..sorry Beasley you started it. BTW Paul I’m her old Cheerleading coach
Mon at 1:24pm
Charlie Will
Wait Jackie used to be a cheerleader? I wish i was around for that. I just wanted to say the debate here was great to read. I believe strict guidelines for regulating this program is needed before it starts. Nothing upsets me more than people leeching the system as an easy way through life. Regulation of this program will will avoid scams and save … See Moremoney. The reason why medicaid ended up costing so much is b/c everybody and their neighbor applied for it and were wrongly approved.

This will create lots of government jobs in every county of every state. That’s good socialism. Think about it. Once they start working these jobs they’ll have money to pay into taxes and when they use their new gov’t healthcare benefits they’ll be paying a deductible or co-pay which feeds back into the system, and they’ll also be able to pay for goods and services which will continually bring the economy back to life.

People always say the way to help a “developing nation” isn’t by throwing money at them, its by showing them how to put their citizens to work. As far as i’m concerned we’ll be less than a 3rd world country until we break even.

Mon at 1:55pm ·
Tamar Willis
Well said Charlie! And yes Jackie was a cheerleader one of my Best, Gymnast too.
Mon at 2:04pm
Charlie Will
@Tamar: Thank you. People have to stop being told how to feel.

@Jackie: i want pictures……

Mon at 2:58pm ·
Paul Mitchell
Tamar, I am 24, uninsured, and back in college after a few years off. I agree with some parts of his plan: eliminating the “pre-existing condition” clause and allowing dependents up to 26 years old to remain insured under their parents plan. I think that two more things need to be addressed: the anti-trust laws that currently prevent health … See Moreinsurance companies from competing across state lines, and there needs to be greater scrutiny put on malpractice lawsuits to eliminate these insane settlements, which end up trickling down through insurance premiums to us consumers. But as far as the expansion of Medicaid, which has been one of the most disastrous and overpriced welfare programs of them all, I think that we’re making a mistake. And Charlie, the government providing the means for fair and appropriate education to prepare us for the working world is incredibly important, but as soon as we start becoming dependent on them for jobs, we lose our liberty. We have anti-trust laws now to restrict businesses from holding the entire share of a market. If all of our healthcare and employment goes through the government, who is to restrict them?

This is a great talk guys. Meaningful (and civil) debate is something that shaped America in its beginnings, and is so important for our future!

Mon at 4:14pm

Hi great big world!

Hello to everyone out there. This is my first post and I’m very excited about this opportunity! I know everyone feels like what they say is the most important thing in the world. The difference between them and I is….I’m actually right. Just a little bit of bad humor.

In this blog I will discuss:

My day to day ordeals with people in the world

Family issues(everyone has some)


Social issues

Random rants about things that get me thinking



So if you can stay with me, I’m sure you’ll enjoy the ride!

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